We (still) need to talk about sex


Originally, I only wanted a fun opening for book 2 and eventually settled on: ‘We need to talk about sex.’

But I couldn’t make the opening work. But by then, I already had a lot more on sex in the story than expected, and so book 2 got its subtitle. In fact, the sex talk, as the team in the story calls it, has its own journey within the journey by now.

I would say that the most varied discussion takes place on Copacabana Beach, the most heartbreaking incidents are in Argentina and South Africa, the most intriguing speculation is probably about the penis trauma (and yes, the question of a vulva trauma (and others) comes up too), and the greatest fun is most likely the ball in Russia.

I usually treat the subject with curiosity and bluntness, or to quote Alice:

‘No, Leo. This whole fuss about our sexuality is one of the major things that screws with us. We have to dig in bluntly to unearth everything we humans have made weird.’

book 2/1, travelling, San Francisco, US

And it probably helps that I am not solely interested in the subject, or to quote Alice:

‘You know,’ Alice said, suddenly sombre. ‘I wish we could just face all the sex issues and then move on. So many things are more important than our sexuality. But our sexuality fucking fucks with us.’

book 2/2, travelling, Russia

On the other hand:

‘I have been thinking about sex on and off for some years. And I can’t help feeling that somewhere in all of this mess, beauty and horror, there is an important key. Sex makes up so much of our lives and cultures.’

book 2/1, travelling, Happy Flying, US

Saying all this, book 2 is not about sex. Sex is just one of the subjects which keeps coming up.

For the impatient reader, I compiled a collection of sex-related extracts from book 1 and 2/1. I also put together a compilation of extracts relating to the speculations about a penis trauma. Once book 2/2 is published, a further collection will comprise all sex-related extracts from book 2/2.

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We need to talk about sex, limping

‘I walked myself right into your sex talk, didn’t I?’ Tom groaned, nearly bumping into another urn.

book 2/1, travelling, San Francisco, US

limping, we still need to talk about sex, extracts from book 2, charlie Alice Raya, cover

We need to talk about sex


and other speculations about us and our sexuality

extracts from book 1, beginning and book 2/1, travelling

This is a collection of sex-related discussions from book 1, beginning and book 2/1, travelling.


Prelude, US

  • Nudity

Happy Flying, US

  • We need to talk about sex

San Francisco, US

  • Urns
  • Property
  • Couple therapy
  • Sex jokes
  • Perspectives
  • LGBTQ+
  • Homosexuality, an intrusion?

Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

  • Copacabana Beach
    • What’s wrong with a girls night?
    • Hoping to be liked
    • So, what’s wrong with a girls night?
    • Traumatic run-ins with women
    • What’s the idea of a girls night?
    • Women prison and inferiority complexes
    • A world run by women
    • I never wanted to be a woman
    • Trouble with the body
    • Limping
    • Boys night and penis length
    • Prejudice
    • Evasive gender
  • This is Rio, best place for gays

Buenos Aires, Argentina

  • You have to fuck
  • Your dick is not a weapon
  • Abortion and the Catholic Church
  • Trustworthy men
  • Sex and populism
  • Sex talk, a journey
  • Exploring why we do stupid things
  • Why does fear smell?

South Africa

  • Friends
  • Colours of the skin, HIV and a priest
  • De-scandalising sex

Sydney, Australia

  • Urns rebooted
  • Sexiness as weapon among women?

Time off, Australia

  • Beauty

Extracts from book 1, beginning, or drafting a town experiment

  • The vilification of the body
  • Porn
  • Happy parents
  • Why don’t you have children?
  • Pregnancy nightmare
  • Gendered outfits
  • Singledom
  • Losing it
  • Sexual orientation
  • One night stands, affairs, relationships and marriage
  • Who rescues who?
  • Jerks of my mother’s making
  • Role models
  • Abortion

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‘Mm … And to answer your actual question … Yes, homosexuality and all the rest will be included. And I have a little theory on why homosexuality—’ Alice hesitated. ‘Sorry for being blunt again, but I can’t think of a better word. The theory is on why homosexuality might be perceived as an intrusion.’
‘Go ahead,’ Leo said both curious and apprehensive.
‘The theory came up, because I’m still squeamish around lesbians. And I don’t like it.’
Leo tensed again. ‘You don’t like what?’
‘That I’m squeamish, of course. But I have a theory …’

book 2/1, travelling, San Francisco, US

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The penis trauma

About an hour later, Alice felt a rush of excitement.
Could this be an explanation? Of sorts?
She had to talk to someone. But who? Who would be open enough to even think about this?
Alice stared at the screen in front of her, then back at the notepad she had been scribbling on.
Leo. Of course. Leo.

book 2/2, Flight to Beijing, The penis trauma

the penis trauma, we still need to talk about sex, extracts from book 2, charlie Alice Raya, cover

We still need to talk about sex

The penis trauma

and other speculations about us and our sexuality

extracts from both parts of book 2, travelling, with a focus on the why of sexual violence


extracts from book 2/2, travelling

  • Some notes on domestic violence, Flight to Beijing
  • The penis trauma, Flight to Beijing
  • Bulges and urges, Russia
  • What are women for?, Otaon
  • Making each other, Otaon
  • Is this how rape happens? Romania

extracts from book 2/1, travelling

  • You have to fuck, Buenos Aires, Argentina
  • Your dick is not a weapon, Buenos Aires, Argentina
  • Nku killed her, Cape Town, South Africa

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‘Well, eventually I asked myself a few questions about the male body and in particular about the penis.’
‘What?’ Leo exclaimed, suddenly sounding a lot more awake. ‘How would you even do that? You don’t have a male body and in particular not a penis.’
‘Yes, I noticed. That’s why I need to talk to someone who has.’

book 2/2, Flight to Beijing, The penis trauma

Why buy an extracts collection?


Two reasons: one, you are only interested in a specific subject. Two, you read the books, and now you want to focus on a specific subject.

On top of that, it’s interesting to experience that the extracts collections develop a dynamic of their own. That’s in particular true for The penis trauma and The beauty of modern slavery.

Extracts usually contain conversations or statements. A subject is never fully explored, but you will find interesting questions, thoughts or speculations.

Extracts mostly don’t contain significant spoilers and focus on discussions or statements which require little or no story background.

Whenever more story background is required, some additional quotes and notes are included.