Why include a conversation about sex this prominently?

The easy town projects are about getting to the root of problems. A lot points to sexuality as being one of those, and self-inflicted at that, handed down from generation to generation.

I would be happy to live in a world where we could all appreciate our amazing bodies, our likewise amazing body functions, where we could respect and treasure each other, enjoy each other, indulge in each other, empower each other, where we could be happy about all the different gender and the many sexual preferences, where we could support families and children instead of patronising them, where we could be free enough not to judge others, and where we would finally have faced up to everything that can be damaging about sex, including the need to dominate, to possess, to compete, to penetrate, to exploit.

But since that world is, at the moment, only a world we can aspire to, sex — however painful, awkward or unsettling — will be one of the main subjects of the easy town projects.

There is too much devastation connected to our sexuality, too much human potential oppressed and destroyed, too much happiness and health forgone to push addressing our sexuality into a corner and hope it will somehow sort itself out.

How the sex talk came into the easy town books

Originally, I only wanted a fun opening for book 2, travelling, and eventually I settled on: ‘We need to talk about sex.’ And since sex would enter the story soon enough, that seemed like a good idea.

Only, I couldn’t make the opening work.

But by the time I decided to use a different opening, I had a lot more on sex than expected, both in book 2, travelling, and in my notes for the following books. And I thought, well, sex isn’t going anywhere, and it’s all over the place already, so I might as well stick with the discussions and use ‘We need to talk about sex’ as the subtitle for book 2, travelling.

In fact, the sex talk, as the team in the story calls it, has its own journey within the journey.

The approach

I usually treat the subject with curiosity and bluntness, or to quote Alice:

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‘No, Leo. This whole fuss about our sexuality is one of the major things that screws with us. We have to dig in bluntly to unearth everything we humans have made weird.’

book 2/1, travelling, San Francisco

And it probably helps that I am interested in many other subjects as well, or to quote Alice:

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‘You know,’ Alice said, suddenly sombre. ‘I wish we could just face all the sex issues and then move on. So many things are more important than our sexuality. But our sexuality fucking fucks with us.’

book 2/2, travelling, Russia

On the other hand:

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‘I’ve been thinking about sex on and off for some years. And I can’t help feeling that somewhere in all of this mess, beauty and horror, is an important key. Sex makes up so much of our lives and cultures.’

book 2/1, travelling, San Francisco

The topics

The sex talk includes every topic that has even the slightest connection to the human sexuality, starting with A as in anus or architecture and hopefully reaching as far as Z as in zero or zigzag.

Along the road questions about childhood or marriage are as much of interest as explorations into gender or pleasure.

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The website

By now the sex talk has its own website: www.we-need-to-talk-about-sex.org.

A place to inspire conversations, and an invitation to pick up a spade and join in the efforts to dig deeper, and to unearth everything we humans have made weird.

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Sex in the upcoming books

I will be honest, I never expected the subject to become this big and wide-ranging in the easy town story. But while writing book 2, I realised that the human sexuality and all that’s connected with it, is a source and in some cases a root of the problems we face today. But it is also a source of energy and health.

And since questioning and rethinking is part of the very fabric of the easy town story, the sex talk will continue to play a role.

Book 3, shaping, was the place where sex originally entered the easy town story. As for the sex talk, so far book 3 has a fun scene about toilets and gender, a somewhat surreal discussion about orgasms, bits and pieces about non-binary gender, the first sex talk meeting, and some personal observations about sex.

One of the interesting questions in book 4, building is: Women and men, how did that happen? And there will be some critical bits about relationships.

But as the overall story turns darker, there isn’t that much space to dig deeper into all the questions regarding our sexuality, though sex will play a significant role in some parts of the story.

But later in the series there is space again and the digging will continue. In fact, there will be some crucial scenes in book 11, and quite a bit of fun with gender explorations in book 12.


The easy town books are now presented on the new easy town books website.

The sex talk and the easy town projects

Each potential easy town project deals with sexuality, be it via the dot.collections or the dot.spaces which address sexual diversity and preferences, or the dot.story which includes references to the sex-talk and to sexual violence. Or the Hub, the book stations and other business ideas which also address a multitude of sex-related issues.

Sex-related posts on other easy town websites

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The sex talk collections

In order to make the sex talk available to those who want to focus on discussions around the human sexuality, I compiled some collections with related quotes, dialogues and scenes.

The sex talk, volume 1 & 2, cover content from book 1, beginning and from book 2, travelling.

The penis trauma is a special collection with scenes from volume 1 & 2, which focus on the why of sexual violence. And while this is a serious subjects, it’s handled with a good dose of humour and contains some intriguing speculations.

The sex talk collections

sex talk, volume 1, limping, by Charlie Alice Raya

We need to talk about sex

volume 1


sex-related scenes from book 2/1, travelling and from book 1, beginning

Pages: 161 pages
Format: ePub
Price: €4.93 (incl. VAT)

sex talk, special edition, The penis trauma, by Charlie Alice Raya

We need to talk about sex

special edition

the penis trauma

sex-related scenes from book 2, travelling, with a focus on the why of sexual violence

Pages: 71 pages
Format: ePub
Price: €3.52 (incl. VAT)

sex talk, volume 2, sexuality mess, by Charlie Alice Raya

We still need to talk about sex

volume 2

sexuality mess

sex-related scenes from book 2/2, travelling, including the penis trauma

Pages: 128 pages
Format: ePub
Price: €4.36 (incl. VAT)

The triple pack

We (still) need to talk about sex

volume 1 & 2

We (still) need to talk about sex

sex talk, volume 1, limping &
sex talk, volume 2, sexuality mess
& the penis trauma

Pages: 289 pages
Format: ePub, 3 files
Price: €9.88 (incl. VAT)


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